Saturday, January 20, 2007
I know i can rub people the wrong way most of the time, but to those who don't really know me.(and it seems like most of the people i know and count as Friend's) I am not what i appear to be, most of you think I'm an uneducated, simple minded dolt. well I'm not it just makes it easier for me to deal with the way my life is, i have no one person i can call my best Friend, no one to talk to to tell them how i feel inside, about any thing, when ever i try to open up to my wife it ends up into a huge fight, when i try to open up to my Dad he makes me feel like a loser (don't get me wrong i love him very much) my Mom has lost it, my Brother is more like a stranger to me, and my three Sisters still treat me like a kid (except for the third sister, i don't talk to her any more and don't wish to) i read some of the other blogs out there how people talk about how bad it is for them try my life for a change and see how i deal with the loneliness and heart ache of knowing that I'm more of a laughing stock to my friends than a person how no one takes me serious well now that thats off my chest see ya
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dude, I don't laugh atcha. life's dismal enough
All I can say is that your life is in your hands, you are the only one that can change your situation. So get off your duff and get to changing what makes you unhappy, analyze the situation(s) and change the things that make you unhappy into situations that you can either deal with in a better way, or even situations that make you happy...you certainly aren't making yourself more happy by wallowing in your own pity and sorrow...
Sorry if it seems harsh, but it's tough love, man.
Don't let ANYONE tell you how happy YOU should (or shouldn't) be for ANY REASON. Be independent and be happy for yourself. Make and create situations that make you happy and walk away from the ones that dont, and if you can't walk away from them, find ways to make them better.
Don't play the victim, be the person that makes everyone else around you better, and your situation will improve.
Happiness is a two way street, you wont be happy if the people around you aren't and you they wont be happy around you if you aren't happy yourself.
Lots of people don't realize this and create never ending circles of unhappiness because they can't seem to find the right ways to make the people closest to them happy. Just take the long term view, and just say no to short term fixes.
Everyone has emotional bank accounts. If you ever take more than you give, you will be overdrawn with them, and they will stop doing business with you (in this case, stop associating with you or being your friend, or even your significant other).
Learn to use this idea and build (deposit into) relationships that become fruitful, and much more useful as well, as the more that you do for others, the more willing they are willing to do for you without you asking them to (bigger bank accounts are always better!).
Just take some time to take a hard look at what you've been doing and saying to people and how they react. Soon you'll be finding the things that make them upset at you as well as happy with you.
Just learn to do the things that make other people happy more often and your 'bank accounts' will begin to grow.
Just one piece of advice about this that I've had trouble with: Just because there is 'money in the bank' doesn't mean you can withdraw. This creates a badly volatile relationship that doesn't produce no matter how big the deposit you put into it; this is especially true with relationships between men and women.
This is the best advice I can give anyone. Take it and use it wisely.
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